Perfection this, a perfection that. Scored 99/100 on a test? Why not 100/100? Wrote a whole novel? Why isn’t it best-selling yet? Lost 4 kgs? Why aren’t you a size zero after all this work? People are never happy, and the world rarely appreciates anything less than ‘perfect’ when it comes to what you do and how you are.
With all this ‘perfection’ toxicity around us, taking a step back is becoming increasingly important. Not so you’ll get a break and then run after perfection once more, but to realize that what’s seemingly perfect always lies behind veils of imperfection. Today, we’ll explore what it means to be flawesome, the benefits of embracing imperfections, and the steps to reach there.
What Does it Mean to Be Flawesome?
You probably want to know what the term ‘flawesome’ means before we get anywhere else. Kristina Mand-Lakhiani introduces this term in her debut book, “Becoming Flawesome – The Key to Living an Imperfectly Authentic Life.” In essence, it’s a compound word combining flaws and awesome, meaning you’re awesome with your flaws, not in spite of them or when you eradicate them.
While the author goes in much more detail, the book guides you through accepting your imperfections as a part of not just you but every human and then reframing your mindset to think of them as your strengths. Furthermore, the path to #BecomingFlawesome shows the reader how to celebrate their own uniqueness in this sea of fish. Rather than striving for unrealistic ideals, the idea of flawesome-ness allows us to embrace our authentic self and find joy in it.
How Does Embracing Imperfections Benefit You?
Accepting yourself as you are, along with your imperfections, has more benefits than what you see on the surface. Besides being content with yourself, here are some benefits it offers as you keep working on it:
- Regaining Focus of What’s Real: Striving for perfectionism can have us look at the future and forget the here and now, even unintentionally. It’s always about reaching perfectionism, whether it’s regarding your looks, career, or achievements. Letting go of these unrealistic expectations can lead to self-acceptance and living in the present.
- Removing Obstacles to Growth: When you’re fixated on perfectionism, you’ll gradually stop taking risks that allow you to grow, personally and professionally. Even when we make mistakes, we learn from them. Perfectionism could mean you’re closing the door to your growth and opportunities.
- Saying Goodbye to Perfectionism: Perfectionism can become a burden weighing in on you at all times. Once you identify the situation and decide to let it go, returning to an imperfect life can release all that pressure and truly help you enjoy the process of learning and evolving.
- Replacing Fake for Genuine Relationships: You might have noticed that in pursuing perfection, you’ll often find yourself surrounding yourself with people you believe to have it all. Embracing imperfection can automatically lead to more meaningful relationships based on authenticity.
What Can You Do to Start Living Your Authentic Self?
The book can give you a complete guide to embracing yourself as you are. However, if you’d like to take the first few steps before you get your hands on it, we’ve got you covered. Here’s what you can do:
- Practice Self-Compassion: We’re often kind to friends or family, sometimes even strangers, in a similar situation to ours. But we forget to do it for ourselves. Start being kind to yourself by letting go of those unrealistic expectations and knowing your flaws make you you.
- Challenge the Idea of Perfectionism: Perfectionism has roots dug into our mindset further than we realize. To start embracing your authentic self, it’s important to first identify those beliefs and thought patterns ingrained in your mindset. Know that perfectionism isn’t truly attainable.
- Embrace Vulnerability: Living under the weight of perfectionism may deter you from revealing your vulnerabilities and imperfections to others. However, don’t allow this mindset to hinder genuine connections. For further advice on overcoming perfectionism and fostering authentic relationships, explore ebusinesstycoon.com for valuable insights and support.
Conclusion
You can only live a fulfilling life when you embrace yourself as you come, along with your flaws. After all, without them, you wouldn’t be the uniquely beautiful you that you are! Let go of that pursuit for perfection; it can transform your life for the better.
